When anger about a person or situation rushes your blood, you need to be able to reflect the situation and hack anger in the right way. Of course, only if you want to get out of your anger. I often meet people who love their anger about someone or something. They drive themselves deep into it to have all that attention they believe not to get without anger. Sounds funny, but people can become addicted to anger.
If you are an individual who sees what the body chemicals during the state of anger are doing with your body and how it affects your health, I am sure you are looking for a way to hack anger.
- Take 10 – 15 minutes, and distance yourself
When we get angry, the heart rate, arterial tension, and testosterone production increase. Cortisol (the stress hormone) decreases when you are angry, and the left hemisphere of the brain becomes more stimulated. (source: SienceDaily)
Of course, there are much more physiological sequences in the process of being angry, but for our anger hack, this information is adequate.
Step 1: Take 10 -15 minutes distance
When the “anger hormones” are released in the body then there is no way back anymore. You have to wait until the substances decompose in your body. These substances have a strong influence on your ability to think rationally. In fact, they reduce them or in high alerts they even set off the logical thinking. That is why it makes sense to give a break in a situation that heats you up. If possible even leave the room, take a moment for yourself and after 10 – 15 minutes countdown from 10-0. After every digit, you deeply inhale and exhale.
Step 2: Whistle
To explain this technique, I would like to tell you a little story.
During my time as production manager in “Häbse-Theater-Basel,” the director went all the time whistling through the theater. Those who know a bit more about traditions in theaters know it is a belief that whistling in a theater brings bad luck.
This idea comes from the elder times where the stage lights got illuminated through burning gas. When the gas tube was leaking, it gave a whistling noise, and it was a need evacuate the theater immediately. To avoid a false alarm, in all theaters, it was forbidden to whistle.
Nowadays the stage lights are illuminated by current and so this tradition is nothing more than a tradition. That is why our director felt free to whistle.
Knowing that, I once asked him why he was whistling so often and he said: “If you whistle you cannot be angry and if you are angry you cannot whistle. I whistle so often because it is my decision to be happy. If it happens that I become angry, I try to whistle until I am able again to do it. To whistle chases away my anger and I am again able to think clearly.”
Take the chance and try this the next time you feel angry. I also had to try it out before I experienced how deeply helpful it is.
Anger is one of the most underestimated success killers. Make sure that you have as less as possible anger situations in your life.
Wherever you are, and whatever you are doing I wish you much success